Rule No. 1: People Are Interested In Themselves

I had a conversation with one of my friends the other day. It lasted for about 20 minutes. I must have only said a few sentences during the entire time. My friend talked the whole time. 

When the conversation ended. my friend said, "what a great time it was talking with you".

Then I remembered the No. 1 Rule of Likability: People are interested in themselves.

The simple way to get people to like you is to talk to them about themselves. Genuinely be interested in them, but let them talk about themselves. 

Find something about them and ask a lot of questions. They'll be impressed that you are interested. Listen as they talk and you will learn a lot about them. 

Talk About Positive Things

Most people want to be happy and talk about the good things happening in their lives. 

People love hearing about what you love doing, that you're excited about. When you express that excitement, it's infectious. 

Talking about negative things or complaining too much just makes people feel uncomfortable. Instead, focus on sharing the positive aspects of your life.

Shy away from topics like religion and politics. People make snap judgments about you, and will lead the conversation down a wrong path. 

If you do share something negative, make a funny story out of it. People love a story that ends up light-hearted and funny. 

Be Funny, But Don't Act Like An Idiot

Speaking of humor, people love it when you make them laugh. Develop a healthy sense of humor and add a little fun to the conversation.

You don't have to become the class clown or act like a complete idiot, but be funny sometimes. 

Being genuinely funny is a hard thing to do, but it's an important part of getting people to like you. 

You don't have to be a stand-up comedian or a prankster. Develop your own style of humor. Overall, keep things fun and interesting.

Pay Attention To Body Language

Learn to read body language. Your body language signals messages that other people can pick up on if they are paying attention. 

A lot of our body language happens without us even knowing it. Training our body to recognize it's own language helps you send the right signals. 

Some Body Language Signals

• Eye contact - You are engaged in what they are saying and are interested in them
• Smiling - Signals trustworthiness. Make sure you smile occasionally. When you do, simile with your eyes.
• Crossing your arms - Sends the message that you are bored or disinterested
• Sighing - means you are frustrated or annoyed 
• Tapping your feet repeatedly - Means you are in a hurry 
• Clenching a Fist - You are nervous or anxious about something

Look Friendly and Attractive

Within the first 30 seconds of meeting someone for the first time, they have already make a judgement about you. 

Therefore, look like a friendly and attractive person. You don't have to look like a fashion model, but your appearance is important. 

You want to look clean, natural, open, honest, and outgoing. 

Wear nice clothes to show that you are a well put-together person. Trendy and flashy are good on occasion, but you are always safe with a classic look.

Make Your Conversation Partner Comfortable

People like you when you make them feel comfortable and relaxed during a conversation. 

By comfortable, I mean going the extra mile to make them feel special. When you are talking to someone, let them know they are your No. 1 priority. 

Give them lots of eye contact, a pat on the shoulder, or shake their hand, where appropriate. Positive, confident, non-threatening gestures can fair well if done appropriately. 

The bottom line is to be sincere in everything you do to make that person feel special.  

Be Energetic And Enthusiastic

Lastly, be energetic and enthusiastic in everything you do. Show it in your speech, in your body language, and in your confidence. 

Put a lively tone in your voice so that it has a lot of emotion and energy. Speak in clear tones and slightly raise your volume a little. You sound more exciting when you do. 

Give a lively and pleasant tone to your voice by moderating the pitch to sound more lively. You don't have to sound like a DJ on the radio, but do what comes naturally. 

You can modify some things about you, but you can't change your personality. Just be yourself. You are who you are and that's what makes you a uniquely special person.

Be excited to show that to others. 

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