Tell Yourself That You Matter

To change your inter dialog from negative to positive self talk, make an appointment with yourself everyday at a specific time to talk to yourself in a positive way. 

Let's call this talk realistic self pep-talks. Affirm to yourself that you are special, wonderful, lovable, and loved by others. But this time include a valid reason for the statement. 

For example instead of saying "I love myself," say "I love myself because I'm a smart and compassionate person." 

Be specific in your self-affirmations. Over time you will gain a deeper appreciation why you can feel good about yourself.

Take Responsibility for Your Own Self Worth

Affirmations are good but they are only the first step. After that it is time to put some actions behind those words. 

The next step is to take responsibility for you own self worth. Responsibility is recognizing that you are in control of things like you attitude, your reactions, and your self worth.  

If people and circumstances are your source of lowering your self esteem, you have the responsibility to get control of the situation. 

Only you can make the decision to do something about your circumstances. Don't let anything stand in your way to gaining better self worth. 

As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

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Forgive Yourself And Other People

Relinquish the need to blame anyone for anything, and that includes you. 

Blame implies that someone else or something has the power over you. 

It leaves you stuck in your situation, and perpetuates the feeling of helplessness. 

Don't blame your parents, the government, or your friends.

They may have made things difficult for you but move on as a strong responsible person. 

In life there are some really difficult times, but you can face them without falling apart. 

Use your resilience to figure out a way to change that difficult situation into something you can manage. 

It's all in how you react to the situation that matters. You have the choice between demeaning yourself or reminding your self to stay firm in your resolve to get through any circumstance. 

Focus your energy on the things you can change for the better. 

Break The Habit Of Trying To Please Other People

It would be nice if we could live our lives in such a way that would please everyone, but that is impossible.

Break the habit of trying to please other people.

As soon as we do, our own true desires will surface and we can start working on fulfilling them. That includes working on your happiness and self worth. 

Open up and express your true feelings instead of keeping them bottled up. As you do, you will respect those feeling, and will not be held hostage by other people's negative reactions. 

Heed Opportunities

Learn to see opportunities and take full advantage of them. 

Opportunities present themselves to us in all sorts of way everyday. 

Building a super self esteem is learning to recognize them no matter how big or small. 

Often times the best opportunities disguise themselves as challenges. As you tackle the challenges, look for a new opportunity. When you see it, take it as far as you can. 

Each one will make you a stronger person.   

Budget Your Money

Many times people tie their self worth closely to their financial situation.

When money is flowing and things are good, their self worth is high. However when the opposite occurs we tend to beat our self worth into the ground.

Make sure you scrutinize all your financial opportunities to set yourself up to relieve any financial pressures. 

Setting up things like savings and investments will help ensure a sound financial cushion that helps keep your self esteem high. 

Value Yourself, Your Time, and The Time You Give To Others

If I ask you who you are and you reply with some reference to your job, you may be suffering from a low self worth tied to your occupation or your job earnings. 

Learn to value yourself as a unique wonderful human being who matters regardless of how much you earn or your occupation. 

The way you allocate your time is another indicator of degree of self worth. Not matter how noble it may seem, when you start giving to the point of neglecting your own well-being, it's time to take back your time. 

When you are undervaluing your time, skills, and talents, it's time to pull back and pay more attention to getting your needs satisfied. 

When you are filled up, then you can give more effectively to others. 

At the end of the day, you are the one that matters most. 

Live In The Present

Low self worth that people experience can often be traced to events that have happened in the past. 

The past may be filled with failures and unpleasant experiences. Some are filled with lessons learned or unforgiven regret. Even though this may be the case, what truly matters is now. 

Nothing else is a sure thing, except what is happening now. 

Control your now. Live in the now and leave the past behind. 

Set you mind to achieving what you can today, and everything else will take care of itself. 

Track your accomplishments, continually work on improving, and compete only with yourself. 

The time to live, grow and change is now, 

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